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Monday, June 14, 2010

Condensed version of non-identifying information. I hate this shit.

I hate being adopted. Oh, I love my family alright, but this is bullshit. Word. to your frickin' mother. or to mine.
Birth took place in a "local hospital" (Kinston has only been confirmed via adoptive parents and LCDSS says they can't give me anymore on that bc that is considered identifying..) Born on 12-9-1972. Full term, 7 lbs. 3oz. APGAR-10. Nothing remarkable. Birth mother lived with her paternal grandparents, after they adopted her at age 3. Barely had a relationship with her own parents, but did write her mother a letter informing her she was pregnant. Saw her father from time to time, but he lived in a different state. Had not actually seen her mother since she was young. Both of her parents had multiple marriages and divorces. Pregnancy was entirely concealed from everyone but Birth father (and letter to her own mother) until the moment she was taken to the hospital in labor.Grandparents were "shocked." Birth father wanted to get married, but she refused, citing that would be a mistake. He moved to another state, and she did not maintain contact with him. (Because of her own adoption and seemingly sad life, she stated she wanted better for her baby, and had wished that instead of her grandparents adopting her at age 3, she would have been given to an agency for adoption.) There was no prenatal care. In the hospital, a social worker was contacted. Birth mother did not see me, and did not want to. She showed very little emotion at signing consent forms. She repeatedly stated this was the best thing for her infant daughter. Birth mother / Birth mother Family Details: 19 at the age of giving birth. Graduated highschool in ?-?-1971. Had previously worked in a shirt factory, but had not worked during the pregnancy. She had plans of going back to that job, or to start a cosmetology course at a local community college. She was overweight, and was 5'1" weighing 180lbs. She had a pretty face, reddish-brown (Mine is considered Auburn...) hair, green eyes and a fair complexion. History of Hay Fever, frequent bronchitis as a child. Family Dr. suspected asthma, but was not on any medication. One of her grandparents (unknown) had diabetes. (Please note: I had stated in my info for the registry that she had Diabetes-incorrect.) As stated previously, she lived with her paternal grandparents. Her (P) grandfather was a cotton mill worker, (P) grandmother, a housewife. They lived in a modest frame house located next to the cotton mill. Mothers Parents (my maternal grandparents): (M) mother 5'1" and 130 pounds. Dark hair, brown eyes. High school education and worked in a shirt factory. (M) father was 6 feet tall and had a medium build.Black hair, green eyes. He was a carpenter and had a high school education. Birth father / Birth father Family Details: (Birth father's name was not revealed) 6 ' tall, weighed about 175 lbs. Black hair, dark brown eyes and dark complexion. (I'm assuming an Italian look, I look like I'm straight from Sicily.) He had one year of college and was planning to eventually return to school . At the time he was operating a steam business. His parents -(P) father-deceased. (P) mother was described as being short and stout with a ruddy complexion in good health. Birth father had 3 brothers and 2 sisters; all of which had dark hair. All are described as tall, except for one brother who was short. Placed in foster home from hospital on 12-13-1972. 12-19-1972 Adoption Committee made a match with adoptive parents (Charles and Georgianne who resided in Goldsboro, Wayne Co.) Wayne Co. is the amended birth county on amended BC. 1-19-1973 Placed with adopted parents. He was a fighter pilot, USAF, aged 25. She was a homemaker -25. They had previously been foster parents themselves

2 comments:

Lori said...

WOW - that is weird - you only need to go to the local college and look at the year books - they are usually pretty complete - or go to the local beauty colleges and see what they have for that time frame, look at pics and see how they apply to you - I mean - well - who knows.

juxtaposition said...

Thanks for the advice, Lori. I ran full on into searching all the places I could think of-I had search angels track her down to the exact street and where she worked-I'm sitting on that info for a little bit, as I have a CI from NC -I think I'm going to let her see what she can do, and definitely continue with your suggestions and some others if I don't get results soon. I know you can imagine how bad I need to find her:(